HOWEVER!
Although I was really looking forward to getting someone to help out, I am not yet comfortable with inviting a complete stranger into my home to work. I find it hard trusting strangers (and others) with my children. I don't think I am alone on this one, as I have met quite a few mothers that share this same view. They all say, it is only God that can truly protect our children for us. That is true. I also share the opinion that God loves us so much that he gave us these children to be their personsal caretakers and guardians. That means, come rain or shine, our korokoro eyes have to be on them. As much as possible.
My children are my life. I have all girls. I cannot afford to be careless with them. Not for a second. As for the cleaning, we all know the more kids you have, the more likely your house will look like a tip if you are not on top of your cleaning. I have sometimes felt desperate for a cleaner. Especially as a working mum. However, I never did. You can call it pride. How could another woman like me, come into my home and clean up where I live. Once a week. Wouldn't that be a waste of my money? Where will she start from? Who knows the corners of my house better than me? By the time I finish explaining what is what and where everything goes, wouldn't that hour be more productive if I just did it myself. Between my husband and I, we do all the house chores, all the cooking, market/supermarket errands, school runs, looking after the kids and everything else in between. Here is why...
1. The Orekoya boys scared the life out of me. If you remember the kidnapping of the three Orekoya boys earlier this year, you will understand exactly where I am coming from. I believe the whole of Lagos was on standstill during those horrifying few weeks. Thank God for the safe return of all boys. But it goes to show that not everyone who smiles and talks nicely to you is actually nice. The system in Nigeria is a little less secure, that is why, despite finding the nanny on a reputable website, it was easy for the kidnapper to disappear into thin air.
2. Who else remembers the video that was put out I think December last year where a Ugandan nanny was filmed brutally beating a baby. My tummy churned just watching it. Thinking about it makes me sick. I can't recount what that evil thing did, but it was the worst child abuse video I have ever seen.
3. Some parents who look for a housemaid, go to their villages, get a young girl and use them to work. From the moment they wake up, till they go to bed, they are on their feet working. I have a problem with little kids working. As long as a child is between the ages of 4-22, that child should be at school. I will only get someone when I want to put them through school and not use and abuse them. If I am not ready to be of help to that child's educational development, then I would rather not have them with me. I wouldn't want any child to live with me and feel like a slave in my home.
4. As I have all girls, it is my duty to fiercely protect their innocence. I feel totally uncomfortable leaving my children with strangers/family members/friends, male or female. I trust no one. I'll leave it at that.
May God Almighty protect all our children.
xoxo
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