How Many Is Too Many

How Many Is Too Many?

I am talking about kids here! How many kids is too many. Where does one draw the line? 1? 2? 3? 10? 20?Growing up, I never wanted children. Young kids never really took to me. I was a kid myself anyway so the thought of having a kid aka a little brat, was so disgusting. Fast forward 10 years later, there I was, a young lady, having a kid.

My post here today will solely be on.....how many kids would one consider too many? Most will say it is dependent on each family's circumstances. For example their socio-economic status, their age, their marital status and what seems ever more obvious/stands as a hindrance to most parents wanting more is their financial status. 

Now this post will focus on parents who want and can have children. I am a little sensitive to parents who at the moment want children but cannot have them for medical reasons. Maybe one day, I will write a post about that.

Back to the subject matter.

In Psalm 127: 3, the Bible says : Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward.

Children to us, is Christ's reward.

There are married couples who choose NOT to have any child. It is entirely their prerogative and it should be respected. Not everyone is the same and because some people choose not to have children, married or unmarried, they shouldn't be castigated as weird or abnormal. Everyone is entitled to their own choice when it comes to health and procreating. In some cases, their careers are at a point where they feel a child will limit a lot of possibilities and opportunities. Some couples choose NOT to have more than one child because, they do want A CHILD but they too may be so focused on their career, they do not want more children that will hinder their growth process. I have heard some really good and valid reasons for only having one child. Some would stick to just two and leave it at that. Everyone's circumstances and opinions about life are different. Some will say they want to give their children the best in life, to include the best education, the best foundation and most especially, the best emotional support. They feel like the more children they have, the more stretched they will be. They will be unable to cater to each of their needs individually. Emotionally, they want to be the type of parents that invest in the well being of their children. Another reason they could give is sometimes, when there are too many children, the parents,  who made the children, wouldn't have enough time to spend together with themselves. Two children is more than sufficient and two children is what they will have. I think no matter how many children you want to have, it is good to be in agreement with your husband/wife. 

With age comes more responsibility. Sometimes, the number of kids a woman/man chooses to have is dependent on how old the parents are. Some parents would love to space their children out so they do not feel overwhelmed financially and emotionally with the needs and responsibilities that comes with taking care of a child. But they also have to consider their age. How old or young will they be at the time each baby is born? How old will they be when their child wants to play ball in the field? How old will they be when their child graduates from the University? How old will they be when they themselves finally become grand-parents. Age, is definitely a determining factor when it comes to the number of children a couple will chose to have.

Some other reasons may of course be the gender of the baby. Now if they had two boys, maybe, just maybe, they will reconsider and try for one more little girl. Every mummy needs her mini-me. My mum has 2 of us, although we know she wanted more. At least one more. But I guess it wasn't meant to be. So I grew up in a household where I had one sibling. My husband on the other hand has 7 siblings, so his house was always busy. So the interesting part in our marriage is finding the medium. I am happy to have 5 children or more, on the basis that we can cater to them and give them the best in life. If I could, later on, I would really love to adopt one or two children. I absolutely love kids. I don't really mind the numbers and my husband believes that we will get what we are given, by God's grace. I think love is love!

I strongly believe that each child is and should be just as loved and as cherished. So as adults, it is good to make wise decisions. Not everyone is the same. If you can take care of and love 20 children, then good on you. Go ahead. I personally love children. I don't particularly love the first trimester or really the third trimester during pregnancy, but just holding them in your arms when they are born, bringing a new life into the world and being a part of that miracle is the greatest feeling. As a parent you not only watch them grow, you raise them and help shape them for their future and their destiny. Already I am blessed with amazing memories of all three of my angels. 

Irrespective of their numbers, Children are a gift from God. The Bible says Children are God's heritage. So no matter the number, be it 1 or 10, each child is just as important as the next. As long as you can cater to each of their individual needs, then its fine. Love and Be Loved.

Be Inspired.
xoxo