Our environment and what/who we surround ourselves with on a daily basis, irrespective of what we tell ourselves, does affect our whole being. If you continually surround yourself with negative thoughts, negative ideas and negative people, your entire outlook on life will be negative. Ever heard "she is a product of her environment"? Especially when referring to a particular individual who was brought up in a bad environment and subsequently became just like the people in that environment? That is because she saw what was around her, be it good or bad, and decided to conform. Usually in such environments, the good look weird/awkward, the bad becomes the norm and the outrageous they say is "one of those things, such is life". I totally disagree with such attitude and perspective because there are obviously a lot of people who see the environment they are in and chose to be bold, be different and make a change, for themselves. Although that is great, I do also appreciate that it is rare.
Now, looking at the here and now, there comes a time and a place in one's life when we need to take a step away from ourselves. Just three steps backwards and look in to your life. Look at what other people see. Look at your life from a different perspective. Are you where you want to be? Is there any room to grow in any area of your life? Only you know yourself, so you are the only judge and your own jury. Look at what area needs tweaking, what area needs improving, what area needs to be changed and sometimes, who we need to let go of.
Now that's a tricky one. How do you let go of someone who, although they are lovely and nice, yet, there is something quite not right with your relationship with that person. Maybe the relationship is one sided where you are the only one giving and investing time into that relationship for it to grow. Now this can be any form of relationship and I am focussing on our relationships with our friends or family. Yes, I said family. Especially when you have a toxic family. Sometimes they are your worst mental influence because they are constantly around you, subconsciously putting you down. Most people we invite into our lives make an impact and they could be individuals who are either related to us or who we meet along our journey in life be it through school, work, mutual acquaintances etc. Now I am not alienating the importance of a strong family unit. Most of us need family around us. In some countries especially here in the United Kingdom, the family unit is not appreciated enough. Only during Christmas (maybe). Having said that, I understand that the reason for the breakdown in communication between family members is just due to the fact that everyone is busy. Busy working. So we live to work, and work to live.
Family is everything regardless of the issues they encounter so lets not be ignorant of that or get carried away. This is about letting go of people who don't add value to your life. Letting go of people who bring nothing but pain, misery and confusion. Where your mind is constantly unsettled. Where every conversation you have turns into an argument for no reason. Sometimes we have to let some people go in order to free our mind.
At times, you need to let go of people who do not fit into who you are now. You might have changed and who you are now is not who you were a few years ago. The only constant thing in life is change. The world is changing. People change. We change. You change. There are 6billion people in the world. You can chose not to be lonely. Life is a choice. Every decision we make affects our future. If we chose to keep negative people/thoughts/ideas in our lives, we can't get anything positive out of life. We will get the same results, stay in the same position we were years ago and never improve. Our associations sometimes reflects this.
At times, you need to let go of people who do not fit into who you are now. You might have changed and who you are now is not who you were a few years ago. The only constant thing in life is change. The world is changing. People change. We change. You change. There are 6billion people in the world. You can chose not to be lonely. Life is a choice. Every decision we make affects our future. If we chose to keep negative people/thoughts/ideas in our lives, we can't get anything positive out of life. We will get the same results, stay in the same position we were years ago and never improve. Our associations sometimes reflects this.
We are to be happy in life. Your happiness and peace of mind is your first priority. What are your priorities? What makes you happy? What choices did you make last year? What choices are you implementing this year?
Henry Ford once said "Life is a series of experiences, each one of which makes us bigger, even though sometimes it is hard to realize this. For the world was built to develop character, and we must learn that the setbacks and grieves which we endure help us in our marching onward". So we must keep marching forward and upward in life. Sometimes, by taking off some negative weight that has been holding us back and bringing us down. Take off the excess weight and negative energy feel free within yourself.
The easiest and most straightforward motto I try to live by is:
Life is simple. Don't you dare complicate it.
Learn to Live, Laugh and Love..... all the way!
Be Inspired
xoxo
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