It goes beyond looking out for your sister on the street and protecting her from stranger danger.
Sometimes when you become adults, the issues of life can get on top of you and you find yourself struggling to take time out for her. Your sister might be going through a particular challenge and all she will need from you is a telephone call asking how she is and what she is up to and see if she is ok. If there has been a breakdown in communication, it's for you to be the bigger person and make the first step. I always tell ladies that even if you have NOTHING to say, sometimes a simple "hello" is more than enough. It shows you care. In England I often feel like the family unit is broken down into tiny little pieces making keeping in contact feel like a boring chore that you would rather not do. It is our duty to remember that no man is an island. We all need somebody. We have to look out for one another. I recall having an informal discussion with the team and I found myself asking my boss how he felt not having a brother and how his only sister was doing. He said, and I quote "she should be ok I guess". Ermmm, what do you mean by 'should be' I asked? He said he doesn't get to speak to her that often and they only see see each other (brings the kids together) once a year for Christmas. I thought wow! How unusual. They are perfectly normal individuals living perfectly normal lives (so to speak) but their love for each other as siblings has obviously faded over the years. I couldn't go a day without making some sort of contact with my sister even if it's a one-word text message. And if I don't hear from her, say, on a super busy day, my day is incomplete or completely miserable. It's not like we have anything interesting to say to each other, but the love is there. The love isn't superficial. We don't see it as a chore or a necessity. It has now become a part of us.
Being your sister's keeper is also looking out for the interests of your fellow woman. A lady doesn't need to be your blood sister for you to care about her and her welfare. A woman doesn't have to be your sister before you stop yourself from sleeping wih her husband. Looking out for your fellow woman could also mean imagining she is your own sister. How would you feel? Or how would you feel if a lady like you, did something similar to you? If we all look out for each other, it may not solve the bigger issues in this world but it will definitely make life a little easier.
Another thing I've noticed is the utter "hateration" that goes on between women. We don't love one another the way we ought. We hate each other. When we see another woman doing well, we get jealous. When they are not doing so well, we are happy. We gossip to highlight their failures. As if the failure of a woman like you would ever bring any substance, value and meaning into our own life. The bane of our existence DOES NOT depend on another woman's life trials. Trials will come, but they shape women to be better the next time around. To learn from her own mistakes so she could lend a voice and give first hand advice to her fellow 'sister' who might be passing through a similar experience.
Agreed, life is not easy. Why make it any tougher on ourselves. I can't begin to list the common unavoidable problems we have to face in life anyway. Why make it any tougher on ourselves.
Let's encourage and lift each other up. As women we are all sister's. Let's support them and inspire them. Let's all be our Sister's Keeper.
To recap -
1. Keep In Touch/ Show You Care
2. Look out for each other
3. Stop Hating
4. Inspire One Another
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